When we lose someone close, one of the first decisions to face is how best to say goodbye. For some families, that means gathering everyone together for a traditional funeral. For others, it’s choosing a simpler farewell with a direct cremation. Both are respectful options — and the most important thing is finding what feels right for you.
At Tong & Peryer, we’ve supported families through these choices for generations. Here’s a simple guide to the differences.
What is Direct Cremation?
Direct cremation is the most straightforward option. There’s no funeral ceremony at the crematorium and no gathering of mourners on the day. Families often choose this for its privacy, simplicity, and affordability.
- We bring your loved one into our care and handle the necessary paperwork.
- Cremation takes place on an agreed date without a service beforehand.
- The ashes are returned to you, or placed in a garden of remembrance if you prefer.
Many families then create their own special moment later — a private scattering, a memorial, or a celebration of life that truly reflects the person.
What is a Traditional Funeral?
A traditional funeral provides the opportunity for family and friends to come together, honour a life, and share memories. It may include:
- A ceremony at a church, chapel, or meaningful venue.
- Personal touches like music, readings, or tributes.
- A burial or cremation following the service.
- A gathering afterwards to connect, reflect, and support one another.
For many people, the structure and ritual of a funeral can bring comfort and a sense of closure.
Making the Choice
There’s no “right” answer here.
- Direct cremation offers simplicity and space for a personal farewell, often at a lower cost.
- A traditional funeral provides the chance to gather, reflect, and celebrate together.
Every family is different, and every farewell is unique.
We’re Here to Help
Whether you’re leaning towards a direct cremation, a traditional funeral, or something in between, our role is to listen, guide, and care. Our focus is honouring the deceased whilst also supporting the start of the grief journey for the living, so its important you have the knowledge to make an informed decision.We’ll make sure your loved one is treated with dignity, and that you feel supported in the choices you make.
If you’d like to talk through the options, we’re always here.
